QUESTION:  “I’ve finally got the nerve to start asking men out.  So how do you do that?  Is it a phone call?  Text?  E-mail?  What do men prefer? ”  - Courtney, Age 31

Congratulations Courtney!  Of any of the themes in the book, taking control is one of the biggest.  It’s also scary when it’s new to you and you’re not exactly sure.  So, let’s ask the men here what they think about HOW they prefer you ask them out on a date and so we asked 1,000 men:

 

So most men like to be called.  But surprisingly, the number that also are okay with texting has grown significantly.  We asked this question in a similar fashion for the book research awhile ago and phone was predominant with texting being a distant second.  Now, the texting number has gone up.  Seems like technology makes it easier and faster, albeit a bit more impersonal.  Ah, the pros and cons.  But what did the men say about it?

“A simple phone call.  That’s what I do and what I’d like.  Don’t be shy about it, it’s not life or death.  It’s a date.”  – Nate, 34

“I actually prefer the text.  This is of course if I’ve met you so I can put a name to a number.  Texting is faster and easier and less awkward.” – Bob, 29

“Texting is the way to go.  Simple and easy.  The only issue is that sometimes I don’t recognize the number immediately…but that’s a small problem.”  – Aaron, 28

“I like the phone call.  I’d like to get the details over the phone as it’s easier plus I can chat with her a bit.” –Christopher, 37

WTF is the takeaway?

So call or text.  It’s your choice.  In the data, we noticed that younger men (20-30) preferred texting at a 2:1 margin over phone, but with older men (30+) they preferred phone calls.  We think this is generational in that texting is so common today for younger men.  That said, either way you go, phone or text, men REALLY appreciate your style and confidence in asking them out as that confidence shows not only that you know what you want, but is the trait men tell us is the most attractive of all.